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During quarantine while observing my two cats Gin Whisky and Bourbon for months, I came to the conclusion that cats are trash human beings. I was working remotely and either began losing my mind or actually realizing some philosophical lessons through my cats’ hissing and self grooming. Yes, cats technically could never be human, but that’s not the point. It’s the ‘Big Pussy Energy’ they give off so naturally that makes them so different from humans. These unapologetic, demanding hedonists have the type of confidence where they face off creatures twice their size. That’s impressive.

So like any other millennial…

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Photo by Humphrey Muleba on Unsplash

On October 4th, I had the honor of speaking at the SoCCA Center with the Make It Different Foundation. I was asked to speak on colorism but thought I would present something a bit more specific. I settled on the topic of Black femininity sold to the highest bidder and valued higher on non-Black women. The presentation was called “Black Womanhood Sold In a Bottle on Amazon”.

As I began presenting the slide explaining the difference between Passing and Black Fishing, I saw some attentive faces transition into confusion. After a few minutes, an older white woman raised her…

Why More Non-ADOS Need To See Racism As Their Problem As Well Before It’s Too Late

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My mother when she first came to the US in the 80s

Marcus Garvey, Shirley Chisholm, and Sidney Poitier. These are Black people who have fought for social justice on behalf of Black America despite not growing up in the US or being ADOS (American Descendants Of Slaves). They were given a reality check once they arrived in this country.

It was made very clear, they are Black and therefore they are seen as less than. Lucky for us these historical figures made sure people saw their true greatness.

But not all Black people see it their duty to fight against racism on behalf of the community as a whole. Many just…

Three things I learned from my cats that may help us be better feminists.

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During quarantine last year I was spending a lot of time with my four legged roommates, admiring their ‘Big Pussy Energy’ on a day to day basis. My cats gradually became my feminist ‘Obi-Wan Kenobi’ duo, teaching me many lessons about confidence, cooperation and proper cat fighting methods. I began to record my observations, including the different ways they demanded their food, their reactions when I woke them from their naps and their variety of approaches to receive affection from me. I eventually came to the conclusion that cats are trash human beings. Here is why.

Unlike humans, cats have…

Here’s Why

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For approximately 80 years Black people in this country were Republicans and then around 1948 the majority became Democrats. During different pockets of history, Black people felt liberated enough to create an agenda to benefit their community and demand respect from politicians who often used them as pawns for their political gain.

Now in 2020 as we face one of the most intense elections in US history, the Black vote is essential, but this time the candidates have to break a sweat to get it.

The Black turn out for the 2016 election was tremendously low, due to the voting options. Both Trump and Clinton had a shaky history with the Black population so, as a result many chose not to vote at all. This year as we get closer to November, the…

This is a reflection on the Met God, She’s Black podcast Episode, Motherhood

Check it out HERE

Despite the expectation of a bunch of quarantine babies for 2021, people are having fewer children for a variety of reasons, such as financial strain, lifestyle choices and fertility challenges. The cause for this may differ by individual, community or culture, but the openness about infertility specifically shows a huge contrast.

Black people do not talk about infertility.

Many families have that one couple that spend years childless and that couple gets bombarded with questions and suggestions about baby making, every family gathering. This stigma of being childless is especially amplified for Black women. …

Last year, I was in front of a wall with a large variety of nuts at a downtown Brooklyn Whole Foods with my sister on the verge of a panic attack. The reason for this should-be mundane moment that turned into a spectacle? Ma’a sent us out to get her some cashew nuts, so she can make cashew milk later that day. She sent us out on this mission after sitting with her for hours. What were we doing? Getting a motherly scolding about our bad eating habits and lack of discipline in avoiding yummy decadent cocktails, of course.

This is a reflection on the Met God, She’s Black podcast Episode, Motherhood

Check out the podcast episode HERE.

You can also read the statement our guest wrote on the Met God, She’s Black blog HERE.

Motherhood is a goal that many little girls in the past were encouraged to aim for, not considering the complexities of adulthood. We coax this idea with fantastical films, baby dolls, love stories in literature and many times family pressure. Without a strong, reliable village, women feel helpless and incapable of caring for themselves let alone a child. Having children is no longer a priority for many women due to financial strains, lifestyles, and demanding responsibilities. …

This is a reflection on the Met God, She’s Black podcast Episode, Marriage

Check it out HERE

Interracial relationships don’t seem like a big deal, but there are significant challenges couples still face today.

Interracial families are in our commercials, on packaging, and our Instagram feed, but something that should be seen as normal still brings discomfort to many. In the United States approximately 14% of all new borns in 2015 were multiracial, but many of these kids will face ridicule and identity struggles growing up. Couples today still deal with the pressure of family, reactions in public and concerns of protecting their children. The intensity of racial injustice around the world have…

Lena Baker was the only woman ever executed by electric chair in Georgia, in 1945. She was pardoned in the early 2000s but her life up until the end is a prime example of the abandonment faced by black women in the black community and society as a whole. After being ostracized from her community and oppressed from outside what was supposed to be her kinship, alcohol was her vice to cope with her trauma. Eventually she took a job as an aid for a white man named Earnest Knight and then became intimate with him. Her employer enabled her…

Majella Mark

Data Dame for @Womanlymag, Ft. Writer for @CultureBanx, Co-Currently crowdfunding for the book “Cats Are Trash Human Beings”

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